How to Finally Fulfill This New Year’s Resolutions
With only a few days into the new year, can you say that are you satisfied with what you have achieved so far? If you look back to last year's resolution checklist, have you fulfilled all the promises you made at the beginning? Or has it been another year full of procrastination and eventually no action? Well, you’re not alone, but that shouldn’t provide comfort not to make a change.
As we hurtle into the coming year, let’s ensure that the resolutions you make this time around are not only promises made in the heat of the moment but real goals that you’ll strive to achieve. If that has always been a problem for you, we’ve curated five steps to show you how to finally keep your word:
1. Figure out the “why.”
Is one of your New Year wishes to get a puppy? Or would you like to hit the gym more? Often, our real goals lie hidden in the smokescreen of intentions that slightly mirror our genuine desires or motivation. You may not really want a dog, but you’re looking to be more social and maybe add some love into your life, possibly lost due to broken relationships that need mending perhaps.
Meanwhile, many often purpose to shed a few pounds, but that is usually fueled by the determination to look or feel better. If you work out the reasons pushing you in a particular direction, you can actually deal with the real matter at hand. So before you jot down your ambitions for the year ahead, give logic a seat at the discussion table to figure out what it is you really want.
2. Serve resolutions with a slice of fun
Do your resolutions seem like the most mundane activities on the planet? If you feel like you have to painfully sit through their enaction, then you may not be so eager to stay the course. If that’s the case, maybe it’s time you tried a different approach: the fun approach. Find alternatives that will help you attain your goals in a fun way that you can always look forward to.
For example, if your primary agenda for the year is weight loss, you don’t necessarily need to hit the gym to achieve your objectives if that is totally unappealing to you. You can take up a karate class, if that’s your thing, or volunteer to take your neighbor’s dog for play dates in the park every so often. If there’s no workaround for what you’d like to do, then treat yourself to rewards at the end of every milestone so that you have the motivation to get things done.
3. Look for helping hands
A long-term goal that requires constant effort throughout the year can be quite demanding, and support from friends and family can go a long way in ensuring you keep on keeping on. If you’re trying to do away with impulsive shopping habits, for instance, you may need another person looking over your shoulder to ensure you stay on the straight and narrow.
A life coach can help you out with accountability concerns, in addition to offering encouragement to keep those flames of motivation burning bright. Sometimes you can get the help you by joining a class or group of people with the same goals as you. Seeing others succeed has also proven over the years to be an excellent inspiration.
4. Be positive and take small steps
If you believe you can, then you will. Conversely, if you think you can’t, then you won’t. It all starts in the subconscious, and while whispers of doubts plague everyone, don’t let those fears shackle you from moving toward your goals. Always aim to find those positive voices in your mind that know you can achieve whatever you intend to do.
Also, don’t bite off more than you can chew. Failure often comes from trying to do too much at once, and it’s best if you focus on the small steps and not the entirety of a 1000-mile journey. If you are looking to cut down on lavish shopping expenses, maybe start by dialing back a couple of bucks each week instead of making hundreds of dollars of changes in the blink of an eye. The point is to divide your goals into these little sub-goals that you can easily attain without pressure.
5. Quantify your goals and progress
You may know that you want to lose weight, but how much weight exactly do you want to lose? The devil is in the detail. Blindly working toward fulfilling resolutions can set you up for underachievement, so be sure to work out the specifics first. After all, you can’t set out on a journey if you don’t know where you’re headed.
The same goes for progress too. Document your achievements and ensure that they lineup with where you want to be in various points in time. If you aim to lose 12 pounds over the next year, you can break that down to say one pound a month and work toward that goal. If you’re trying to control a certain overwhelming pastime, maybe you play too many video games, you can have a calendar where you mark out those days you’d want to stay off the devices.
You can do it!
Your New Year’s resolutions aren’t a tall order. You can achieve your wish list by figuring out your actual goals, injecting fun into the objectives, believing in yourself, and having a few reliable shoulders to lean on and supporting voices in your corner. Always start small, and it helps if you can make a habit out of your goals so that they become second-nature to you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Owner/Founder Life Purpose Institute
Life Coach Certification & Career Coach Certification
Fern Gorin was one of the first to pioneer the Life Coach Training field, starting her company in 1984. Life coaches trained by Fern’s company, have helped over 1 million people worldwide. Graduates of the Life Purpose Institute ICF accredited program, go through a life-changing process intended to not only teach practical ways to help people through life changes but to also transform lives.
Professional School of Psychological Studies
Degree: M.A. Counseling Psychology
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International Coaching Federation Alliance of Career Counseling Professionals
California Association of Marriage & Family Counseling Shared Vision Network